– Think of 3 descriptive words that you want your wedding to embody. Write them down and stick it somewhere you can see at all times. Don’t loose sight of those three words while planning. Doing this will help keep your eye on the prize. If you need more of a visual representation, create a vision board to match these 3 words. Know that you’re not going to create your exact vision board but have it for inspiration and motivation!
– If you don’t have any around your house, go buy some organizational folders. Keep things like contracts, timelines, questionnaires, and any other documents organized in these folders. Don’t let all those papers stack up all over the place.
– Download a checklist and print it out. Clean your desk and keep that list front and centre at all times. This will help you feel prepared, organized and not distracted by all the million minor tasks. (I offer a free wedding checklist to those subscribed to my newsletter! Subscribe here and get yours right away as a pdf download! http://eepurl.com/dj6eVf)
– Remember to focus on 1 task at a time. This is huge for not letting yourself get disorganized and confused as to what needs to be done. 1 thing at a time!!
– You may be a super decisive person, you may not, but you need to prep now for being decisive. Know what you want and don’t be afraid to ask for it. This is what those 3 words will help with. Don’t be an indecisive bride, it will cause more stress for everyone involved, especially yourself!
– Ditch the traditions you genuinely don’t care about! Leave what your great grandma or 2nd cousin wants you to do behind… If it’s not you, say goodbye!
– Add personal touches. If you and your fiancé love poutine, consider getting poutine for late night food. If you’re obsessed with scotch, have a mini scotch tasting bar with your 4 favourites. Not a candy person? Offer a gourmet popcorn bar, a donut wall or a nice charcuterie board. Think of something you two love and enjoy or do together and incorporate it into your reception or ceremony. It will mean so much more to you and your guests.
– Confirm with caterer/venue that those working your wedding will eat at the same time you do. (Photographer, DJ, MC, organizer, planner, videographer…) Nothing crazy is going to happen while you’re eating, so the people who need to be ready should be eating with you. That way you ensure they’re fuelled and prepped for speeches, toasts, kisses and all the fun things that happen during the reception!
– Create a timeline for the day and fill in what you have already confirmed and then add to it as you confirm other times. Once it’s done, send it to everyone who will need it. This includes photographer, videographer, DJ, venue, bridal party, parents, organizers, MC, and anyone else that it applies to.
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– Relax, please for the love!!! Maybe you’ve been dieting, working out, not drinking alcohol, drinking double your regular amount of coffee, you’ve for sure been busy planning, organizing, going to appointments, and probably telling your mom to mind her own business a lot these last 6-12 months… So go get a massage with your fiancé and remember this process is a part of the fun! Get some bubbly, have a bath, get facials, go to your favourite restaurant or even a full blown spa day. Whatever you need to relax, just do it!
– Create a getting ready playlist… Sounds pretty minor and stupid doesn’t it? Close your eyes for a minute (don’t actually because you need to keep reading!), I want you to pretend you just woke up on your wedding day and your maid of honour is knocking on your door with her bags and the party is officially starting. The first 30 minutes is quiet, then you think, “let’s play some music!” So you ask your girls to play music and they play some weird workout remix of a 2010 song you don’t like. Not the end of the world, but now imagine your maid of honour knocking on your door and the second she walks in you hit play to your perfect, relaxing/upbeat/fun personalized playlist. Much better!
-Break in your shoes! No explanation needed.
-Create an emergency bag. There are tons of resources online for what to have in this bag, but it really does help ease stress in the event that something does come up. This is also a good task to delegate to your bridal party or the groomsmen if you’re already stressed and have a lot on your plate. However you do it, this emergency bag is key! (Pro tip from personal experience have a sewing kit in there! I always have one with me and it has come in hand almost every single wedding I’ve done!)